Theme: Rejection, Not BelongingCheck All That Apply
I don't belong. I will always be on the outside (left out).My feelings don't count. No one cares what I feel.No one will love me or care about me just for myself.I will always be lonely. The special man (woman) in my life will not be there for me.
Theme: Unworthiness, Guilt, ShameCheck All That Apply
I am not worthy to receive anything from God.I am the problem. When something is wrong, it is my fault.I am a bad person. If you knew the real me, you would reject me.If I wear a mask, people won't find out how horrible I am and reject me.I have messed up so badly that I have missed God's best for me.
Theme: Doing to achieve Self-worth, Value, RecognitionCheck All That Apply
I will never get credit for what I do.My value is in what I do. I am valuable because I do good to others or because I am '‘successful''.Even when I do or give my best, it is not good enough. I can never meet the standard.God doesn't care if I have a ‘secret life,’ as long as I appear to be good
Theme: Control (to avoid hurt)Check All That Apply
I have to plan every day of my life. I have to continually plan/strategize. I can't relax.The perfect life is one in which no conflict is allowed and so there is peace.I can avoid conflict that would risk losing others’ approval by being passive and not do anything.he best way to avoid more hurt, rejection, etc., is to isolate myself.
Theme: Personality TraitsCheck All That Apply
I am unattractive. God shortchanged me.I am doomed to have certain physical disabilities. They are just part of what I have inherited.
Theme: PhysicalI will always be:I will never be:
I will never be:
Theme: IdentityCheck All That Apply
I should have been a boy (or girl), then my parents would have valued/loved me more ..., etc.Men (women) have it better.I will never be known or appreciated for my real self.I will never really change and be as God wants me to be.I am not competent/complete as a man (woman).
Theme: MiscellaneousCheck All That Apply
I have wasted a lot of time and energy, some of my best years.Turmoil is normal for me.I will always have financial problems.
Theme: Safety/ProtectionCheck All That Apply
I must be very guarded about what I say since anything I say may be used against me.I have to guard and hide my emotions and feelings.I cannot give anyone the satisfaction of knowing that they have wounded or hurt me. I’ll not be vulnerable, humiliated, or shamed.The best way to survive is to OVERPOWER other people.The best way to survive is to AVOID other people.I will always need to be strong in order to protect and defend myself.It’s not safe to submit myself to anyone.
Theme: RetaliationCheck All That Apply
The correct way to respond if someone offends me is to punish them by withdrawing and/or cutting them off.I will make sure that it hurts as much as I do!
Theme: VictimCheck All That Apply
Authority figures will humiliate me and violate me.I will always be used and abused by other people.My value is based totally on others’ judgment/perception about me.I am completely under their authority. I have no will or choice of my own.I will not be known, understood, loved, or appreciated for who I am by those close to me.The significant people in my life are not there for me and will not be there for me when I need them.
Theme: Hopelessness/HelplessnessCheck All That Apply
I am out there all alone. If I get into trouble or need help, there is no one to rescue me.I have made such a mess of my life there is no use going on.I am a victim of my circumstances and there is no hope for change.I’m all alone.Something is wrong with me.
Theme: Defective in RelationshipsCheck All That Apply
I will never be able to fully give or receive love. I don't know what it is.If I let anyone get close to me, I may get my heart broken again. I can't let myself risk it.If I fail to please you, I won't receive your pleasure and acceptance of me.I must strive (perfectionism) to do whatever is necessary to try to please you.I will never be a priority with those in authority over me.
Theme: GodCheck All That Apply
God loves other people more than He loves me.God only values me for what I do. My life is just a means to an end.No matter how much I try, I'll never be able to do enough nor do it well enough to please God.God is judging me when I relax. I have to stay busy about His work or He will punish me.God has let me down before.He may do it again.I can't trust Him or feel secure with Him.